While domestic violence and rape still occur on a daily basis in Cambodia,
some women are breaking their silence to take a stand against the years of
mistreatment they've endured
Blood flowed heavily from 27-year-old Heng
Theary's head. She said her husband struck her with a wooden chair, a brutal
response to her question about why he never brings money home from his work
as a coconut vendor.
"My husband always beats me without any reason," she told the Post
last week.
Heng Theary's story is far from extraordinary. The Ministry of Planning
estimates that 22.5 percent of women in Cambodia are victims of domestic
violence, according to a 2005 survey - the most recent government data
available on violence against women.
The NGO Cambodian Women's Crisis Center (CWCC) keeps its own statistics based
on court cases filed by women seeking its assistance dealing with abusive
spouses. Some 572 women went to court in the first six months of 2007 with
the help of CWCC offices in Phnom Penh, Siem Reap and Banteay Meanchey.
Nop Sarin Sreyroth, general secretary of the crisis center, said the group
does not have national figures and most domestic-violence cases are never
reported. Police will intervene only in extreme cases.
"Domestic violence happens everywhere in Cambodia, not only in the city
but also in the countryside, [both among] poor and rich," explained Hor
Phally, executive director of the Phnom Penh-based Project Against Domestic
Violence (PADV).
She said in most households the man is the only one earning money, so many
women remain in violent marriages because leaving would make their future
uncertain.
But Heng Theary decided to take a stand against the beatings and abuse she's
endured from her husband for so long.
"I can no longer tolerate his violence against me, so I decided to
complain to local police so they will arrest and punish him according to the
law. I will also request a divorce," she said.
"DOMESTIC
VIOLENCE HAPPENS EVERYWHERE IN CAMBODIA"...
More women are making the same choice, according to the CWCC. Nop Sarin Sreyroth
said as women become more aware that they also have rights, they choose to
leave abusive marriages.
Changing the law
A domestic-violence law passed in 2005 has provided stronger legal frameworks
to prosecute abusers.
But while it looks good on paper, its practice in real life is somewhat
different.
"We support the idea of further protection [for women], but it has been
implemented very slowly," Nop Sarin Sreyroth said. "Now we are
trying to teach local police and authorities how to use the law."
She said a second law in 2007 raised concerns by increasing the cost for
divorce hearings. Prior to its implementation, the CWCC would pay between
US$10 and $15 to administer a divorce case. Now the fees have risen to as
much as $50.
"We pay for the women who come to us for help, but in rural areas where
we are not present, many poor women cannot afford to separate from their
husbands," she said.
Changing attitudes
Nop Sarin Sreyroth believes one key to reducing violence against women is to
change perspectives among men, many of whom consider their wives to be
personal property rather than partners.
In her work with PADV, Hor Phally has seen these attitudes play out through
forced sex, which she says is one of the most atrocious aspects of domestic
violence.
"[Some] men regard women as sex slaves and believe they have the right
to sex whenever they want, whether their wife wants it or not," she
said.
Men must understand that sexual relationships without mutual agreement
between husband and wife are in fact cases of rape.
A 42-year-old woman from Kampong Cham, who requested anonymity, said she has
lived with this kind of abuse for years.
"Sometimes I do not feel well, but my husband forces me to have sex with
him," she said. "When I refuse, he gets angry and beats me, and
claims I have committed adultery to justify the violence," she said.
She tried to file a case against her husband with local police after her
husband beat her unconscious, she said, but he threatened to burn the
house down if she did.
Despite a life lived in the shadow of her husband's aggressions, she said she
and her three children continue to endure the violence.
And while a growing number of women are taking a stand, many more still
suffer the outrage of habitual abuse.
"We need more awareness and more intervention from police," said
Nop Sarin Sreyroth, while emphasising the need for long-term solutions.
"We should provide more education for young women. When they get a
better understanding of their rights and become more economically
independent, their situation will change."
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