"Indonesia Cleric's Second Wife Issue Sparks Polygamy Debate"
Jakarta, Indonesia - A popular Indonesian Islamic cleric's
decision to take a second wife has sparked a fiery debate about polygamy laws in
the world's largest Muslim country where multiple marriages are only banned
among civil servants.
The turban-clad but leather-jacketed Abdullah
Gymnastiar's announcement prompted the government to consider extending the ban
to lawmakers, a move that sent many legislators leaping to the defence of
polygamy arguing that it is allowed under Islam.
"If the government
wants to regulate polygamy, it has to do it correctly because Islam allows
polygamy with some strict conditions," Ichwan Sam, secretary general of the
Indonesian Ulema Council, an umbrella group of Muslim clerics, said.
"There should not be an impression that government regulations or laws
are reducing religious teachings."
The controversy began when
Gymnastiar, a 40-something preacher with the style of a televangelical and the
fan following of a rock star, announced he had taken a second wife, unleashing a
torrent of angry text messages and e-mails, media reports said.
"Polygamy is indeed allowed, but don't put lust above everything else"
or "Don't sell out your religion", said some of the messages in response to
Gymnastiar's second marriage.
Gymnnastiar, popularly called as "Aa Gym"
or elder brother Gym, is a household name in Indonesia because of his relaxed
sermons on Islam that strike a chord with ordinary people charmed by his chatty,
youthful style and effervescent smile.
His moderate tone, use of
hi-technology and hobbies such as riding Harley Davidsons set him apart from
stereotypical clerics.
"Women tend to be monogamous, that's how their
software is. But men, you know. . . their software is different," the Jakarta
Post quoted Gymnastiar as saying in a sermon when asked if he had married again.
Women's activists say polygamy should be completely banned.
"In
our marriage law, our principle is monogamy. . . but the law puts polygamy as an
exit in the worst situation," Nursyahbani Katjasungkana, a leading feminist
lawyer and member of parliament, said.
"For me, polygamy is
discrimination or like apartheid. If your husband doesn't like you he can get
rid of you."
Though uncommon among ordinary Indonesians, polygamy has
some prominent advocates such as restauranteur Puspo Wardoyo who has four wives,
and has been at the forefront of a campaign to promote multiple marriages.
His popular chain of restaurants is known for items like "Polygamy
juice", a mixture of four tropical fruits, and "Polygamy Vegetables, a
four-vegetable combo.
But activists pushing for a ban on polygamy, which
goes back to the Javanese sultans, say it is a form of female subjugation.
Former president Abdurrahman Wahid's wife, Sinta Nuriyah Wahid, was a
prominent opponent of multiple marriages. A little more than two years ago she
led a group of protesters who blocked the delivery of packed lunches from
Wardoyo's chain.
More recently, an arthouse film sparked some
soul-searching with stories of three women in polygamous relationships: a rich
doctor, a waitress and a poor shantytown girl.
"Although these women
possess different feelings, some things are the same: the sadness and denials
behind their smiles," Nia Dinata, the director of "Berbagi Suami", or sharing a
husband, said in an interview some months
ago.